Updated: Jun 27
Shining the light for next generation.
The whisper I am tackling first in this series is that, as women, our identity is undefined. That anyone can have it.
The lie that somehow as women our definition is without boundaries, and if we give it a boundary, we are to be canceled.
That’s a big one to bite off in a first episode of the series, but in order to build up strong women I believe I have to define us first.
The culture we are living in is so confusing. There are mixed messages everywhere you turn.
For example, feminist say putting me in a dress, making me wear makeup or expecting me to look beautiful is not fair. They say “That is not what makes me a woman, I have more to offer”.
Exactly opposite to that belief, as a culture, we are also being told that because a man is undergoing a change, wearing a dress, wearing makeup and growing breasts- he is now a she. He is a now a woman. Meaning it is something attainable.
We are simultaneously being taught that those specific and attainable changes make a person a woman, yet our body does not define womanhood.
That the things we put on it do not define us, yet we must accept that what we put on our body can define us. Respect it. Do not question or be canceled.
I’ll just let all that sink in. To me it doesn't make sense but it is what my teenager comes home questioning from school.
While I believe the bible is very solid on what God views as genders, my heart breaks for the young girls growing into women during all this. They are getting mixed signals on what being a strong woman actually looks like.
In a muddy culture that cancels you if you disagree with anything, how can you start to find yourself and define who are you.
In general, we are people pleasers as women, we want others to be happy with us. I never had the fear of literally being canceled as a person growing up. Young people today, do.
Fear is what is shaping our next generation. I can not fix popular opinion or end cancel culture on my own, but I can shine light in the darkness by being a voice that says you are good enough just as you are. A person can not actually be canceled.
Growing up in a society that can not even define what a woman is, is so very damaging for the young women.
Does our body make or break us? Does it define us or not? Is anyone that has boobs a woman like me or is it a uterus that defines us as women, because I have absolutely seen articles declaring men having babies.
How do we expect the next generation of women to be strong and bold, when as a woman pushing 40 myself, I do not know how to answer that question.
What makes me a woman?
I believe we need to start with the truth. We start by a definition, then the rest can follow. The bible is specific in genders, it is not fluid. I would like to start somewhere else though, just a little deeper. A little less polarizing.
I want to get to the heart of accepting ourselves, then, I feel we can define ourselves. You can not define something specific until you are ready to acknowledge the specificity meant for that something.
I believe when God made us, he designed us specifically. He made us for a reason.
If he made us for a reason, how can I not have specific value. Something has purpose and value if it is needed to fill a void.
"I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."
First and most importantly, I love myself because God loves me. I have value because of that love.
I would not change myself because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. If God does not make mistakes, why would I claim something on me is wrong. If my heart goes there, then I am questioning the God of the universe, and I am not sure I want to get into that line of questioning.
Don't get me wrong, I can lose weight, I can dye my hair, makeup is one of my favorite things. But that is not where my identity lies. My identity lies in Christ. Not in what my body has or does not have. As the world has demonstrated, those things can be changed. Boobs can be added or removed, makeup can change everything. Therefore outwardly things can not define me. A definition is something that is constant and unchanging.
1 Corinthians 15:10
"But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. "
I am what I am and his grace toward me was not in vain. His grace, meaning his kindness, his saving grace- was not done in vain for any of us.
Jesus found value in us, knowing full well who we were. My value is not my bra or pant size, God knew that did not matter and could change. My value is therefore not on my body, but rather in who God made me to be.
My value rest in Mac, the person, the person that God made me to be, the person that loves everyone. The person who devours the word of God because she believes that is the source of all wisdom. My value is who God made me to be.
As teens, there is so much life ahead of you. As young women, there is so much life coming your way. You do not know what you are going to do exactly, but God already knew the choices coming, and he still created us. He still offered his saving grace to us.
From being a stubborn young woman myself, I know full well that acceptance has to get out in front so that I can hear other things. God does not want us to live in shame. Guilt is not something we have to carry around, by carrying that burden of regret and wrong choices, we are only fogging up the mirror we are seeing ourselves with.
We can not define what we can not fully see.
If God created us with specific purpose and assigned us value, why would we deserve anything less than A specific definition.
"She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her."
This is my last point of the day. In bible times, jewels were the utmost value. Anything silver or gold was associated with great wealth. The bible says I am more valuable than great wealth.
I am more precious to God than anything that holds Earthly value.
If you think about it, wealth is attainable. You can work hard, you can become wealthy. Meaning wealth is not something that holds meaningful value, anyone can get it. I mean, I like money as much as the next girl, but technically people can work hard and attain money. Making it attainable.
This verse specifically says “SHE” is more precious than that.
This verse leads me down a path of well, if a “she” is more valuable than something attainable, “she” must be unattainable. That is the only way more value can be held. If “she” is something I allow to be unattainable, it is something God given. Not just anyone can have it. It becomes something you either have or do not.
By God’s standards I meet the definiton of woman. For me, for anyone else born a female, that value is inherently decided, by God. Making it become unattainable for those that were not decided by God to be female.
I think our definition of “Woman” is starting to take shape here. It seems to have nothing to do with what my body has or has not. It was decided by God.
The beauty that God is telling us is that as a woman, I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am what I am and I do not need to mold or bend anyway I can not. God declared me to be worth it.
I was not in vain. My womanhood was not in vain, but my womanhood is also not attainable by everyone because it holds value. That value has definition in God's eyes as purposeful, not in vain and more precious than Earthly value.
Now that we have established in God's word that as women we have purpose and even a definition, we can start to establish how to be a strong woman. If we can understand who we are, we can find a way to shape what we are.